Connect, Whakawhanaungatanga

“Aroha mai, aroha atu- love received, demands love returned”.

You can connect in so many ways.  Connect with your feelings, your wellbeing and the people around you, such as your whānau / family, friends, colleagues and neighbours.  Connect at home, work, school, or in your local community.  Think of these relationships as the cornerstone of your life and invest time in developing them.  Building these connections will support and enrich you every day.
Connecting with and Overcoming Grief
  • Acknowledge to yourself that you are experiencing grief
  • Accept that it is okay to grieve
  • Acknowledge your grief with your family
  • Discuss your grief with a friend
  • Research disenfranchised grief
  • Start a blog on the SFMI website forum
  • Connect with others sharing similar experiences
  • Acknowledge your grief with your SFMI field worker
  • With others, tackle the ‘must stay positive at all times’ attitude
Connect on an Individual Level
  • Call someone that you haven’t called in a long time
  • Invite a neighbour over for a coffee
  • Smile at a stranger – you may be surprised by the smile that you get back
  • Think of a place that recharges you: Get there as soon as possible and plan to return there more often
  • Talk to someone instead of sending an email
  • Speak to someone new
  • Ask how someone’s weekend was and really listen when they tell you
  • Give a colleague a lift to work or share the journey home with them
Connect in the Community.
  • Volunteer for a day
  • Read a local event newsletter see what is going on and organise a trip or activity day
  • Get involved with a local community garden
  • Check out the activities on offer at your local community centre
  • Organise a lunch/ cup of tea in a café with at least two others
  • Get involved in a local focus group
  • Become involved in groups; join local craft, sports, choir, hobby or book clubs
Connect With Other Carers via Carers New Zealand
  • Meet other carers in your community
  • Host your own meet up via Carers New Zealand meet up website
  • The meet up website will promote your event(s) to people in your community who have a meet up account: there are thousands of users in New Zealand
  • Download the Carers New Zealand meet ups toolkit designed to help carer’s self-organise a get together in their communities
  • Act as a facilitator for a Carers NZ meet up in your community
  • No-one understands a carer like another carer. Give a meet up a try!