Supporting my daughter

forumCategory: QuestionsSupporting my daughter
Colin Owens asked 3 years ago

Hi

I would like some coping stratagies to help me with my daugter who is contemplating suicide.

She has started counselling this week but i would like my own tools as i am unsure how to behave/act around her

Michele-Northland replied 3 years ago

Hi Colin,
Thanks for making contact with us. I appreciate this is a very difficult time for you and I’m glad to read that your daughter is starting counselling.
It’s great that you are searching for tools for yourself and to ultimately be able to support her. Looking after yourself is also very important and it may help to have someone you can talk with too, a family member, friend or another professional. It helps to not feel on your own. It’s OK to ask for help and to not have all the answers, so be gentle on yourself. It’s normal to feel scared and powerless.
Try to stay calm and hopeful that things can get better. The best thing you can do is continue to be there for her and to listen, even if you can’t understand why she is feeling the way she is, just accept that she is.
Alternatively, she may not want to talk so accept that too. She may be more comfortable with her counsellor.
As well as Supporting Families there are other helpful websites to access such as:
Mental Health Foundation http://www.mentalhealth.org.nz
Common Ground which provides parents, family and friends with access to information, tools and support to help http://www.commonground.org.nz;
Lifeline 0800 543354
and a free call or text number 1737 available 24/7 to talk with a trained counsellor. This service is free.
You may want to talk to you GP also.
I hope this has been helpful and there my be other family members on this forum that may be able to offer advice and support also.
Michele

Olivia-AucklandOlivia-Auckland replied 3 years ago

What great advice Michele, thanks for posting that. I’ve also heard that Facebook is another alternative, if you search for possible parent groups. Someone I know searched for and found a group on Facebook where she could connect with other parents, who shared their stories to help other parents. I’m sure that due to the sensitive nature, some may be closed groups to respect others situation and privacy. But try and give that a go. All the best to you and your daughter Colin, take care of yourself.

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Olivia-AucklandOlivia-Auckland answered 3 years ago

What great advice Michele, thanks for posting that. I’ve also heard that Facebook is another alternative, if you search for possible parent groups. Someone I know searched for and found a group on Facebook where she could connect with other parents, who shared their stories to help other parents. I’m sure that due to the sensitive nature, some may be closed groups to respect others situation and privacy. But try and give that a go. All the best to you and your daughter Colin, take care of yourself.